welcome to the board. I myself has an ileostomy, it's just a week old today, I am sorry to hear that your baby has to have an ostomy, I dont have any advice for that part but I will keep you and him in my thoughts and prayers.
There are alot of caring people on here, we just seem to be a little slow replying. Some of the people have web sites that they have created and have lots of members and links , you should check them out.
Shaz and Kerry are two that I can think of right off bat.
Hang in there.
I Just tell myself, it could be worse !!!