I'm not sure whether you're talking about an ileostomy or j pouch surgery here so I'll give you the info from an ileostomy perspective (since even with a j pouch, you're likely to have a temporary ileostomy for a short time anyway).
I was told that after surgery u have lots of bowel movements a day and then they stabilize to 6 a day and that the stools are always watery like.
Actually, with an ileostomy, it's not like bowel movements as you know it. You can't feel the stoma working and it will output 95% of the time. Because you can't feel it, there is no urgency and it just goes regardless of what you're doing at the time. You're not running to the loo all day, it all goes into your bag. The '6' a day you're talking about is the average amount of times you will need to empty your bag - some people empty more, some less. You will find there are no absolutes regarding ostomies :)
Ileostomy output ranges from watery to paste like (depending on what you have or haven't eaten. Since the large intestine absorbs mainly water (plus salts) and you won't have one anymore, stool will never be solid again because you're losing water with your output as well.
moonshine01 also said ...
I heard that after surgery u get at least one BM during the night if not more
Again, you won't feel it and it will all go into the bag while you're sleeping. Some people do find their bag gets very full at night and have to get up at night to empty, others don't. I usually wake up to find the Good Year Blimp on my belly, ie a bag full of gas, but rarely have to get up at night to empty.
Some say it takes a year to feel normal again. is that true?
This can be true. It's a major surgery you're undergoing. However, most people start to feel well again right after surgery. It can take up to a year to regain full strength though. Most people are back to work/school approx 6 - 8 weeks after surgery so it's not like you spend that year doing nothing :) You can still do anything you want after you heal (approx 2 months), you may just tire a bit more easily, but each day you will feel a little better than before.
moonshine01 asked ...
Are u able to eat whatever u want?
YES! And it shows lol. Some people do find that certain foods can cause blockages but just because it causes problems for some people DOES NOT mean it will cause a problem for you - everyone is different. I eat whatever I want and have never had a blockage in my stoma's 32 year history.
Hope this helps :)
I have had an ileostomy for 32 years now due to UC.
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