I am sorry to hear about your dad.
Here are some suggestions of mine:
Ostomy / wound nurse, Great place to get basic infomation on ostomy care and get some samples of supplys
Local support groups, If your dad won't go, you go you will be amazed at how much fellow Ostiomates will want to help both you and him.
Keep posting any questions here, we arn't as busy as we used to be but there are a few of us and we will help in any way we can.
as far as everyone being able to see the bulge read this post I did a while back on that subject, share it with him, humor is my biggest tool I have to keep mysefl sane! just copy and paste the following link:
Hang in there!
* I think it may be time for a colorful metaphor*