I just viewed your pics on photobucket and also would recommend a second opinion. I believe I would want to know what the bulge is as well esp. if it hurts at all. Are you eating a regular diet? Does this bulge occur when you stick to soft foods? The reason I am asking is that you mention: "when it builds like that hurts..." so I am wondering if you have an obstruction right behind the stoma - like food slows down it's transit causing this bulge. That can also be painful.
I've never had a hernia but maybe others who have will take a look at the pics and comment on them.
Hang in there .. maybe we can give you some ideas. Do you have other colorectal surgeons in your area that you can seek a 2nd opinion from?
Diagnosed with CD in 1979, many resections and meds
Perm Ileostomy July 1984 at Cleveland Clinic
Disease free since surgery