Well, I just got caught up on reading your posts and other's answers. You are doing so well considering the amount of time since your surgery. Hang in there girl! As you can see, each day gets a little better. And you are asking great questions.
Re: showering with or w/o the bag on .... well, I prefer to leave it on. I just towel dry the back cloth side and since my blow dryer is always right there in the bathroom, I turn it on, lay it on a towel on the counter and let it blow dry my pouch as I put lotion on, etc. By the time I'm done with that, the pouch is pretty much dry. Just a few little swishes around the wafer and wah-lah, ready for dressing. I don't like the feeling of the moistness of the pouch against my skin either. I tuck it in when I get dressed. Usually the towel absorbs most all of the moisture. When I am away from home, I just towel dry and dress/go.
I have the skin tone bags that you cannot see thru. I just never could stand the clear ones. You are right, they do make you feel "dirty" in my opinion. Let me tell you --- if you can See it, it really isn't so bad. Esp. once you get something to control the smell too. Makes all the difference for me.
And, as you have noticed, the noise does quiet down as time goes. But, I do the same thing Cece suggested.. just lay your right forearm down across your stoma when you hear the noise to muffle it a bit. And no one knows that it isn't your stomach grumbling --- hehehehe! Just think of the times you've been, say, at the dentist and the hygenist or dentist's stomachs have growled! Now, how do you know they don't have an ostomy vs. a noisy stomach?!!!
Be positive. You are healthy and on your way to eating again and living life. Hang in there and certainly vent anytime you want. We do all understand you.
Diagnosed with CD in 1979, many resections and meds
Perm Ileostomy July 1984 at Cleveland Clinic
Disease free since surgery