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Date Joined Dec 2008
Total Posts : 104
   Posted 12/30/2008 7:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey everyone! So Im only 17 and I know I probably shouldn't be worrying about this as much as I do but this is worrying me to death! ..
My mom quit her job so she could stay home to take care of me =) I love her so much for doing that. But that left only my dad working. He works anywhere from 60-80 hours a week so he works his butt off and it just seems like we never have any money. My parents argue about how they get behind with bills and my moms the type of person whose worked alll her life and now that she has to stay home with me all day (she really doesnt but she doesnt want to leave me alone while shes working) she gets really stressed out. I think anyone hates just sitting at home all day everyday. Im getting homeschooled right now because I just had my first ileostomy surgery last month. My dad started working fewer hours so I could apply for a medical card but we just couldnt live on only 20-30 hours a week. So he recently had to start working his normal amount of hours so we can get caught back up on the bills. And I just found out today that I no longer have my medical card. I still have one more surgery and im sure there will be doctor visits in between now and then. My dad got the bill from my first surgery and it was $37,000. We had to pay nothing =) Thank God! My parents cant afford that! one can unless your rich! So without my medical parents are going to have to pay. And that scared me to death. I feel like everythings my fault. Im costing them so much pain and suffering. This isnt worth it. Id much rather it be me still hurting and them happy. I shouldnt have gotten this surgery..Now no one is happy eyes
17, SENIOR in high school
Dx with Ulcerative Colitis on March 18,2008
Tried what seemed like every medicine there is..nothing worked
Step1 Ileostomy on Nov.19,2008..waiting on Step2 =)
The past is history, the future is a mystery. Today is a gift, that's why it's called the present.

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Date Joined Nov 2006
Total Posts : 552
   Posted 12/30/2008 8:40 PM (GMT -6)   

Bella, you seem like one special girl. Your parents (and you) should be very proud. I am the mom of a daughter (also 17) who had her surgeries these past few months. Let me tell you, a parent will do anything and everything to make things right for their children.
You mentioned that you wish you had the pain and that they could be happy. I'm betting that they are thinking just the opposite. Parents never want to see their children in pain. We would do anything to take it away.
Money issues can be very stressful. My husband and I both have good jobs but we are always behind in our payments. We do have good health insurance so that isn't an issue for us. But worrying about paying for everything can be tough. But we would do just about anything to make sure our children are healthy.

Talk to your parents. Let them know how you feel. Be there to support each other. Remember that the most important thing for you to do right now is get healthier each day.

Have them talk to the doctors, hospitals, pharmacy, etc. They can work out payment plans, if necessary. Remember in the long run, you getting healthy will end up costing alot less then all the medications you would have to be on with UC.

--Mom of bratcat (17 years old) and nonamejames (19 years old)--
Daughter bratcat was diagnosed with pancolitis October 2006
Flared Fall 2006, Fall 2007, Spring 2008
Asacol, Rowasa, hydrocortisone enemas, prednisone, 6-mp, Remicade
7/3/08-Step 1 j-pouch surgery and no more meds!
11/10/08-Step 2 reconnect!
Son nonamejames was diagnosed with Crohns in Spring 2008
Asacol, Pentasa, 6-mp

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Date Joined Jan 2009
Total Posts : 37
   Posted 1/6/2009 11:18 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Girl,
Just found this post. I know this are tough and you are worried. As you know my daughter is sick and has been ill for a while. I also have 2 boys 15 and 17. We (as Moms) would do anything for our kids. I have missed a lot of work to be with her and bills have been delayed. It's just something that has to be done to get our loved ones through this. I work at the hospital where my daughter is and I joke that I will be here until I am a hundred to pay off my portion of the bills. But it doesnt matter. The health of our children comes first.
I cant wait for my daughter to get strong enough and talk with you. I think you will have a lot in common.
Hang in there.
taking care of daughter w/ Crohn's since 12-04
MD's switched her diagnosis to Ulcerative Colitis 10-08
her medications: Remicade, imuran, benyl, levisin, humara, TPN (in hospital and home) home iv antibiotics
Multiple admissions for flares, sepsis
2 ports inserted/removed
Total Colectomy 11-11-08
revision of anastomosis 12-08
Temporary ileostomy 1-2-09
Thanks for all the support!

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