Ok guys, sorry this is totally OT but i am just have the most drama going on right now its crazy, and everyone in IRl and on my other site are either directly involved in it, and the people in it read the other site, so i am just like at the end of my rope. I hope it's ok to post this, I am sorry if it's not mods. it's long and complicated and you may just wanna skip ahead and say, oh gosh what a mess, hope it gets better.
so let me start at the beginning. While i was sick i never went anywhere i never did anything, just sat at home, before i got sick i was always doing something. well after surgery when i got my energy back i started doing things again. Back in March i ran into some old friends, people i have known for 16 years, and we started hangin out again. So, its Todd and Diane (they are married) and Aaron, he is not be he and Diane are best friends. They are all really close to my age. We all used to work together for years. So anyway, i started doing stuff with them, thats the people i had the pudding wrestling with! We go out on friday nights, i dont neglect my child, and my husband doesn't want to go. I also, after 30 years, decided i would try drinking, i right like it, lol. So my Mom starts acting all crazy because i have friends and am spending time with them saying how i am a totally different person and blah blah. basically she is jealous that i am not sitting at home waiting on her to do something with. It's like she is not glad i am not sick anymore. It really hurt my feelings and we got in this huge thing about it, after months of her makign these smart little comments. I love my Mom and she is a great Mom but that just flew all over me!
Well Todd and Diane have two children and 3 and 4 year old, i have a 3 year old, and they love playing together. And so the 5 of us spend a good bit of time together during the week also. My husband usually goes to bed about 8 (yes that's right 8) sometimes earlier. so it's not like i am takign time away from him, he doesn't want to go, or he wants to sleep. Anyway, my grandma, mom and sister are mad about this, because they want my little boy to be sitting here if they want him. That's part of my drama.
This is the really confusing part.
Diane and Aaron are very close (not like that) friends they talk alot. Well Todd and Iare pretty close also (again, not like that, lol) we are all close of course but we sort of pair up like that friend wise, it's just that diane and aaron were already so close and todd and i talk more due to work circumstances. So my husband is jealous of relationship with Todd, cause i talk to him more than i talk to my husband. well it's because my husband doesn't want to talk to me. He is either in bed or in the computer room. You may have noticed that me and my husband dont have the best relationship, we have alot of problems and it just doesn't get any better. he wants me to sit at home also, and gets mad because i don't. He goes and spends hundreds of dollars at the drop of the hat and doesn't care that we dont have thatkind of money. And when we try to tlak about it, we just fight.
Ok so on New Years Eve, Todd has to go to the mountains to pick up an engine for his wife, he wants to know do me and my son want to go with him and his kids, and i say ok, why not. Well it ends up that none of the kids are going to go, so me andhim go. totally innocent, nothing going on that wouldn't go on in front of my husband or my mom for that matter.
Well Diane and my husband both say they are ok with it, but theyact kind of funny about it. Keep in mind that my husband was at work and so was she, and herbest friend, that she does stuff like this with all the time is a guy, and my husband is a nurse and went to another country for fun with three women a few years ago, and i didn't mind, i didnt want to go and they are all friends.
Well then thursday night, diane and todd got in this fight over soemthign that i still have not figured out my son and i were at their house. And he left the house so the kids wouldnt see them fighing and she turns to me. And she is my friend also so i try to do the best i can. Alright they finally work all that out.
Then last night, they got in a fight because she sent him a text and he told me what it said! She flies off the handle a little easy! well i was at their house for the night, and had no way to get home, so i had to stay. Anyway, the next morning Todd goes to take my home, and he is talking to me in the car abotu them fighting while she is texting me about it!
So i am caught in the middle and feel like it is partially my fault. I tried to explain to her that i want to be able to talk to both of them about it and that i think it's important that Todd have someone to talk to because they don't have any firends exclusive of each other. She says she is fine with that.
But anyway here i am just stuck in the middle, not wanting to take sides, even though she is wrong here, but they areboth my friends! So there is one mess. they seem to be ok right now, but who knows.
Now here is my second mess. Aaron's sister used to work with my mom, her name is brenda her husband is jimmy. Well i told my mom i knew them and she informed me that Jimmy got fired from his job because he was sending emails to the students at his high school the girls and flirtying with them, brenda does not know this! Also that when brenda leaves jimmy has girls over! Alright while they are not really close friends of mine, it is my close friends sister. And while i know it is not my business to say anything, but i feel horribly guilty knowing this and not saying anything.
Then to top it off something is wrong with my jaw and my face is all swollen and my kid will not listen for anything it's driving me crazy! The past few days i have just wanted to run away!
Ok i am done now, i am sorry that was sooo long. if you managed to get this far thanks for reading!