crazybirdman--like the name, do you have birds?! Welcome to the forum
While I am not a guy....I wanted to mention that you may get more answers to your "man" question by starting a new thread. There are many guys that post and they'd be more than happy to give the man's point of view. Just from memory, I don't think they've had any problems after their recovery period!
Is your diagnosis UC or Crohn's? I had my proctocolectomy(removed colon/rectum) for Crohn's a year ago Feb 8th and I am SO HAPPY I did it...I too had an ileo for about 8 years prior so that part is a breeze, but don't kid yourself about "bouncing back"! I turned 40 during my recovery and I felt much older:( BUT the good news is that you get more strength back everyday!! BTW, I don't feel old anymore...I hope I can be 40 forever!!!!!
Complications may/may not happen for you. Some of us have had them, but it is not a given. Mine was easily handled and it is just a minor blip on the rest of your life!
Will your surgery be lapro or open? Just a few more days....