I know she means well, it is just her way. She has very strong opinions. My wife wouldn't let her come to ostomy meeting.
Ostomy meeting went OK, but she was also very opinionated in a different way - when I mentioned posts here like the adhesive spray - she rolled her eyes and said less is more - and leaks are most often caused by odd placed stomas in relativity to the abdomen, and user error. She doesn't believe in a lot of pastes, spays etc.
I will be going into a holister two piece clear system right a way after surgery. She said after that my wife and I will learn to put the appliance on.
She did give me an edgepark catalog - tried to find the adhesive spray but could not locate it - everybody raved about it - I think it might give me more mental confidence if not physical adherence. If anyone has a product number/maker I would appreciated it.
Surgery is less than a week away. I have my round purple dot where I am going to have my stoma. I must say my wife is way way more confident and stronger than I in this. I really don't know what I would do without her. It actually brings me to tears thinking and just writing that.
I doc emailed me again, as he is doing every couple of days to check in on me - and said that I might have to have a wound pump for a couple of weeks if the bowel prep was insufficient or there was some other irsk of infection. Do they send you home with the pump attached to your bottom? How do you get up the stairs with this thing to go to bed? (That is all my MIL has to see, or she will go batcrazy - thinking I should be sent to a nursing home immediately - by the way that was another opinion she said would be better for me - is to go there for a month or so - and then come home to my family all better - that opinion was severely cut short by my wife!).
So, has anyone else had this pump thing?
I think my doc told me this later in the game because I am sort of emotional and scared and he doesn't want to hit me all at once.
He also said he is making sure I am being put in a private room - which I don't know how he swung that with Medicare. but he is a prince. He probably told them I am a nut! (or he met my MIL) hehehehe
Is my anxiety going to get worse as I count down. I am trying to divert my attention to other things. And trying to fall asleep with Ambien, Xanax, and Lyrica is not working as I just lie there trying not to think.
Anyway, I want to thank you all for all your help once again.
Love to all, bob