Everything you are feeling is normal for what you are going through right now. It's fine not to want to see anyone at the hospital except your wife. As much as most people mean well, visiting usually means that the patient has to be the host, so to speak. Make sure your wife understands your request (as I suspect she does already).
As for "pushing it all on" your wife as your MIL says, that's part of marriage. To love unconditionally, to support when needed, to lean on when needed. Focus on that wonderful marriage you have. Your MIL's husband probably never complains about pain because she wouldn't support him if he did!
Any chance you can get your MIL out of the picture for awhile? She is definitely adding to the stress.
Just know we are all sending you hugs, strength, and good wishes. And keep venting here. It will help release some of the tension.
--Mom of bratcat (17 years old) and nonamejames (20 years old)--
Daughter bratcat was diagnosed with pancolitis October 2006
Flared Fall 2006, Fall 2007, Spring 2008
Asacol, Rowasa, hydrocortisone enemas, prednisone, 6-mp, Remicade
7/3/08-Step 1 j-pouch surgery and no more meds!
11/10/08-Step 2 reconnect! Living and loving life as a teenager should!
Son nonamejames was diagnosed with Crohns in Spring 2008
Asacol, Pentasa, 6-mp