Hi Miracle and welcome,
First off I'd like to say don't worry, you'll be amazed at how much better you will feel once you are finally having bms. I had a subtotal - I have 2 in. of my colon left. I had an open surgery and was only in the hospital for 5 days. My surgery took 3 hours; I too had a lot of scar tissue even though I'd had previous surgery to have it removed. My dr wouldn't attempt a laparoscopy due to my scar tissue issues so I know I was having an open surgery. I had the NG tube for 1 1/2 days but it was only supposed to be 1, the interns didn't take it out when he told them so he took it out the next morning. I was given an epidural only for pain - it was the very best - it really didn't have too much pain but I have a very high pain tolerance. Once I went home I was given vicodin prn - but I usually just used it at night to sleep. My dr had me take MOM the next day after surgery, soon after the bms started then I started eating solid foods. I never have had an accident or have even come close. In the beginning I had 20+ bms but by the 6th week I was having 8-10 a day and I went back to work full time.
Get flushable wipes, they will become your very best friend . I NEVER use TP, even to this day; I also use A & D ointment. I pretty much use these routinely and should probably by stock in each one, lol, but it is much better than the alternative. I am down to 3-8 bms a day and I continue to be on a low residue/low fiber diet. There are some foods that will make you have more frequent bms than others, you will learn all of this through trial and error.
Some of the things I took with me to the hospital were: an ipod - a must - to drowned out all the hospital sounds especially at night, I took one size bigger pj pants, slippers you can just slip on without bending over, a bathrobe, some magazines.
I didn't really feel like doing a lot, I listened to my ipod the most and walked, walked, walked - this really helps with the healing.
Continue to ask any questions as they arise. Congratulations on your marriage!!!! Tell your husband to be very patient and that he will need to do everything in the beginning so that you can heal. I didn't do anything to risk getting a hernia or scar tissue.
You are in my prayers.
Blessings, peace and prayers,
spleen/appendix/gall bladder removed/endometriosis/complete hysterectomy at 29/sinus surgery/numerous allergies & asthma/chronic kidney stones/ pancreatitis 3x's/2 knee surgeries-now need replacement/shoulder surgery w/ pins-which also froze following surgery/severe adhesions & scar tissue-stomach to chest-liver to ribs-colon to pelvis/severe IBS w/ constipation/subtotal colectomy 7/08-
Am now down from 17 meds a day to 8 and VERY healthy:)
There's always hope and things will get better :)