Oh man Bob, now I KNOW you're in severe pain. You'd take your MIL over the pain. I'm trying not to smile here as I type.....
I didn't have my rectum removed, obviously, since my temp ostomy was reversed. But I did have a lot of surgery done to my lower rectal/sigmoid area. They removed 90% of my sigmoid and then 15 inches of my colon, pulling it down and re-attaching it to my rectum. I have permanent staples in this area. Also, the stapler malfunctioned during surgery I was told and they had to push my lower newer sigmoid area out, staple it and push it back in.
So all of that said? I was in SEVERE pain for 4 straight weeks. So in this small way I know the pain you are describing. The only way I felt relief for it was if I put pressure on my rear end. Meaning, sitting on a hard wooden chair or lying flat on my back to sleep. Or putting my hand on top of my rear end over my clothing as I walked around the house. Sometimes when I'd get up from a chair, I would feel as though I had left half my bottom behind. No pun intended. It felt like my bottom was not attached to the rest of me. If that makes any sense.
I was told this area of the body has many, many nerve endings. And they take a lot of time to heal. Until then, you have pain. I also took many sitz baths, with either baking soda or Aveeno added to the water. This did help.
But what helped the most? Time. Time truly was the best healer. They told me to walk and walk I did. It was painful, oh my gosh, very, very painful but I walked. First a loop inside my home, then outside (I walked the perimeter of our house about 5 times, several times a day). Eventually we bought a treadmill so I could stop it and use the bathroom if needed).
Ironically our Golden needed her anal glands removed about a year later. My Vet talked me into it and I agreed. Well, this poor thing whimpered in pain for 2 weeks. I kept a faithful schedule of her pain meds, so I would never miss a dose. I had to hand feed the poor girl in my hand, she couldn't bend over her food bowl, she had to sit on the carpet to eat. After her surgery, I had two experiences - this part of the human and canine body is very touchy and painful to have surgery on.
Based upon my experience, your pain sounds dare I say normal. My pain did eventually go away but it was there, 24/7. I would go to sleep praying it would ease and wake up with the same thought. It seemed to take about 30 days for it to begin subsiding.
- Diagnosed with rectal cancer, April 1999 - Stage I, no treatment necessary
(5 hour colon resection: 90% sigmoid removed, 15 inches of colon removed, gall bladder removed, given temporary colostomy)
- Colostomy reversal, June 1999
- Left with IBS/D symptoms, multiple bm's every day
- On a low residue diet at least 75% of the time
- Takes Colace 50 mg each evening
All in all I do okay, I just use the bathroom A LOT! But I survived and beat cancer!