I wanted to be sure that someone addressed your question.... I think some of us may feel a bit out of our comfort zone to actually recommend or not recommend someone to have surgery. Do you trust your dr? Have you had more than 1 professional opinion? I will have to say that I had CD and had several resections in the early stages of my diagnosis (those it was already very advanced) and temp ileo in hopes that it would allow my rectum and colon to heal. It worked, but only very temporary for me. I was young and totally ignorant, and, fought having to have the ileostomy. In the end, a perm ileo was the only thing left for me to do, and I have been disease free since I got it. I wish you the best of luck and do let us know your decision.
Diagnosed with CD in 1979, many resections and meds
Perm Ileostomy July 1984 at Cleveland Clinic
Disease free since surgery