I am a 28 year old man, with a colostomy. I have had it for about 6 weeks now, and am coping adaquately. Not long ago, my colon perferated from Diverticulitis. Of course, I didn't know this until it was too late, and spent a couple of weeks in the hospital after having a portion of my colon removed (one in ICU with pneumonia and septic blood). Anyhow, I have miraculously recovered nicely, and fortunately will be able to have the ostomy reversed in the future.
I had put myself in a frame of mind that it wouldn't be long before the procedure, and if I chose, I could have it done in a month or so. My surgeon recommends a longer wait, especially after what my body has been through...I agree.
So, my wife is due with our first child (a son) in January. I refuse to have any procedure done to myself close to her due date, so after discussion with my surgeon and wife, I have decided to wait until sometime next year to have it done.
I know that I am fortunate to have the opportunity to reverse it, but I can't stop feeling sorry for myself. I know that the decision I have made is, in essence, the first sacrifice I have made as a father, and anything that will protect my wife and son is what I want.
Maybe I just need someone from here (or anywhere, for that matter) to tell me what a selfish ass I am being about this, and to shut up. After all, I am lucky to have even lived through my illness. I am seeing a counselor weekly, but I feel that even they don't completely understand what I am going through.
My question to you: Were the first days the hardest days? And, what advice can you give to ease my mind? Thanks to you for taking the time to read this. I already feel better having taken the time to type it out.