You've been through a lot of scary stuff lately. I don't blame you for not wanting to rush into more surgeries and hospital stays!
Most of us have had the luxury of choosing (more or less) to have ostomies placed.
The good news, like Glaciergrl said, is that you can lead a normal life if you chose to have your ostomy forever.
Maybe in a few years, you'll feel like you can have it reversed, but you don't have to.
The care of your ostomy will not rule your life forever. You will eventually have a routine, know what to expect, and things will go so fast (used to take me 30 mins, with my husbands help, but now 10 mins max). It gets easier.
Good Luck to you.
28 yrs. old. married with one beautiful daughter (born 11/20/07)
-diagnosed with severe pancolitis u/c 2002 had total colectomy 12/19/08; emergency surgery due to abscess-had to redo ileostomy and switch to left side 12/25/08; 2/15/09 found blood clot in superior mesenteric vein (prob. from inf. and surgery inflammation)
coumadin, prenatal vit.
"Things turn out the best for those who make the best of the way things turn out."