Welcome, Liza! I'm glad you found us, too. You have a great attitude and are doing really well for only being one month post-op.
It's a big surgery, and it takes a little while to get your energy back. Showering after surgery always tires me out, too, so I put a chair in there to sit on. It really helps. I also set up a vanity area in my bathroom, where I can sit and blow dry my hair. Even after all that sitting, I still have to lie down and rest.
I'll never forget the first time I emptied in a public restroom. The output was really watery and the bag was full. I undid the end, but the tail was not in the toilet yet, so it went all over my jeans and the floor! Luckily, I was a private bathroom, so I had time to clean it up without anyone around.
Welcome again. You're in good company here!