I understand how difficult this all must be for you. Especially after hearing what you did from your friend's dad. Does he have a medical background or credentials in the GI area? If not, then I would be apt to set him straight.
My doctor explained UC to me as being a fluke deal. My system possibly had a predisposition for the disease and it became active when it happened upon a certain virus I had contracted (no one knows what virus that may be) and BOOM the disease was active. Also, everyone has different levels and affects of UC. I personally become very upset when physicians just throw out the term 'colitis' and tell patients that have it.
As for the cure issues, we all know there is really just one 'cure' for UC. Maybe his friend found remission and had a very light or non-intrusive form of UC.
I am 28 and LOVE my ileo. Granted I am married, and I do not feel the pressures of dating, but I do understand the superficial friends and vain feelings.
I am so sorry you are having these feelings and doubts. Please know that many of us are very pleased and absolutely giddy with our lives with the ileo! I personally feel my metabolism has sky rocketed since the surgery and life is finally good! : )
Oh Jen, I am sorry you have to listen to these uninformed people give you advice. Please don't listen to your dad's friend. He has no idea what he is talking about. I wish stupid people like him could be told stupid things about their problems and see how it feels! Believe me, I went through a fair amount of crap from stupid people when I had surgery. I had people tell me it was a dumb idea, I had friends leave me because of my decision (is that crazy or what?). I know it's tough to stand tall; you have been through so much and are still in recovery. I suggest you walk away from anyone who intentionally or unintentionally makes you feel bad. You need to surround yourself with people who care.
Post Edited (Jen_J) : 6/30/2009 6:50:40 AM (GMT-6)
thx for sharing.
Post Edited (Jen_J) : 7/16/2009 2:57:19 AM (GMT-6)
Post Edited (mikeman) : 7/16/2009 7:41:48 AM (GMT-6)