It has not gone real well around here, and now my wife and her mother and fighting like cats and dogs. Her father won't get involved and just sits in his chair reading the paper. They never speak.
We haad the meeting with my minister firnd - I offered my MIL an invitation to this family conference, but she said she was being set up---this actually tipped off my wife that something was wrong.
My wife , an only child and papmered her whole life - i say that lovongly, did not take this well. She feels now she is between her mother who she adores and me. I have agreed to move out temporarily if that what she wants. Of course she said no.
There is really no resolution here, as now my MIL has become very open in her bitterness toward me, and my wife has a problem contradicting her mother. My minister basically said the ball is in my wife's court - and he said that her mother was being very un-Christian. To which my MIL said he wasn't onjective as he has been my friend for years.
So now we have a very disfunctional family life, that I still feel the casuse of, regardless of the forgeiveness the minister has bestowed on me. My wife cannot stop crying and she has become paralyzed in thid dituation - I have volunterred to take care of myself, as best I can without her around and send he back to California.
My MIL bought two plane tickets one for her and one for my wife to leave me.
The worst part is she really did something very mean. She said she would help take care of our pets, and she let our very prized and loved singing canary die from thirst and hunger - because he was my speacial pet - but my wife gave me the canary (actually we both celebratedf birthdays with him), so she knows now how mean she can be, but this revelation at age 50 is too much for her to bear with all the other stuff going on.
I try not to listen to my MIL, but I cant help hear my wife's pain in this situation. There is now nothing any of us can say, as our cards are on the table, other than I will do anything my wife wants me to do to try to make her happy. I think that is almost an impossible task right now as she is grieving the loss of her view of her mother as a kind loving woman.
Right now, Peter, my frind, said to step back and let the two of them work it out - but it is my instinct to step in and help. Being mobility disabled now makes me feel more disabled in all things I do.
Sorry for the not fun news.