I have my ileostomy in april and reversal in june. I ended my relationship with my boyfriend, different curcumstances but I'm going through a bit what you are. You will find better and just think after all of this when you finall feel better you will be looking better too! People won't always be asking you if you feel okay or see the pain in your eyes or just sense that you aren't doing too hot any given day. I don't know about
you but people did this too me all the time and I'm so glad that it's over. You will feel better!
As for the pain, I know if hurts we all do. Try to focus yourself on something you enjoy. I caught myself up in movies. I would get comfortable and have everything I needed around me. Then I would pop in a good movie (try something upbeat and funny, but not too funny to make you laugh hard cuz that hurts too). Even a good conversation could distract my pain.
I had an infection too! I know this really really sucks! Don't worry about
the breakdown. Once in awhile you need to have a little me time, but try not to dwell on it and know that there are wonderful things waiting for you around the corner once you are all healed!
25yrs old/ teacher/ Wisconsin
Diagnosed UC Pancolitis in Nov 2004
Diagnosed PSC in Oct 2006
Proctocolectomyand Jpouch formed with loop ileostomy April 2009
Reversal June 2009