I live in Florida, too, on the west coast, and have a permanent ileostomy due to Crohn's. I wear a tankini bathing suit and regular warm weather clothes, and nobody can tell that I have an ostomy. I know, because people tell me that after I've shared my story with them.
I'm very active, too. I work 4 days a week, go to the gym after work, swim in the ocean, go to waterparks, camp, travel...you name it... and my ostomy has never slowed me down. In fact, now that I'm not sick anymore, I have so much MORE energy than before, so I'm actually more active now!
I'm also romantic
quite often with my husband, and he doesn't even notice or care that it's there. I like to wear sexy lingerie that covers my stomach area, but I do that for me, not him.
Best of luck with your decision, and please continue to ask us any questions you may have. We're here to help!
Dx'd Crohn's in '99 at age 28. Proctocolectomy and ileostomy in '06.
Disease-free and medicine-free since surgery and very thankful to be healthy again.