I dont know how she is, but could you put some type of clothing over her bag that she couldnt remove? That way she couldnt tear the bag off.
And if she went with a jpouch, she would only have the bag for a few months.
And maybe if you got her some neat covers for her bag she might like that.
Im sorry i cant be much help.
there is a site, and i think its dragonkids.com or somethign like that, for kids with ostomies.
UC for 8 years, before finally kicking its butt and having a permanent ileostomy April 17 2007!
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