Wow, you are struggling more than most. After reading your comments, if I were you, I would opt for a bag. I was 34 when I got my bag and it saved my life. Having a bag has it's own complications - skin irritation, leakage occationally, and such. However, you would not have to run to the bathroom anymore. I just had my bag reversed, but when I had a bag, my family used to joke a lot about how I could poop and drive at the same time. I never needed to pull over. I highly recommend you read up on a friend of mine who has a bag at www.ostomysecrets.com. She started her own line of ostomy underware because she believes you can have a bag and still be sexy!
Good luck with your decision.
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