"we can explain it to her in a way which will allow her to see it as a normal part of herself and not have so many body image issues associated. "
When she becomes a teenager, she will probably as all her friends will, unfortunately, always have body issues whether she has an ostomy or not. If it's not her ostomy, it will be her nose, legs, tummy, eyes, pimples, etc. Mine has always been my big bum rather than my ostomy lol The best thing you can do for her is not make that big a deal out of her ostomy and treat it as a normal thing. Hopefully, that way she will grown up accepting it easier and not stress out too much about
it later on in life.
Just explain that some people wear glasses to help correct eye problems, some wear braces on their teeth to correct teeth problems, she wears a bag to correct bowel problems. And the biggest bonus - hers isn't visible like the glasses, braces, hearing aids, etc :)
"Did you tell friends?"
I told my closest friends in school (some of whom are still friends 30 years later) and they really didn't care about
it. I got myself all worked up over nothing lol
"Of course, I don't want her to be bullied or made to feel inferior because of this but I can't expect that will never happen."
People need never know about
her ostomy unless she tells them. If people ask why she's been away from school, all she need say is she has had tummy troubles and surgery has fixed it, no need to go into more detail if she doesn't want to. If she trusts people enough to tell them, then she can. Otherwise, she may prefer to just keep it to herself. After all, most other people don't share their toilet habits with their friends :) I was never teased at school about
it cos none but my closest friends ever knew about
my ileostomy - rather I was teased for being short (pred saw to that one lol).
Ileostomy for 33 years due to UC
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Post Edited (Shaz032) : 12/21/2009 4:19:29 AM (GMT-7)