Hi Beverley -
Life with a misbehaving Ostomy can be the ultimate test of patience!
Where is your abcess in relation to the stoma? Is it draining under the flange? Is that contributing to the problem? Have you changed soaps? Are you using tissues with lotion around the stoma?
My stoma is pretty well flush with my tummy so I only get about
3 days between eqpt changes, but it really sounds like there is something else causing your leaks ... "stool refusing to drop down" - are you having problems with pancaking?
Unless your stoma is really retracted, there should be a solution, however, I think your best plan of action may be to call the Customer Service Depts at Convatec & Hollester (or whosever products you use). They are fabulous! Explain what's happening & ask for their suggestions. They are really good at asking the right questions to figure out what is causing your problem. It may be as simple as you need a flange with more Convexity. Ask for samples, as they're more than happy to send something for you to try.
If you need phone #'s - let me know.
Best to you -
DX Crohn's Disease 1976
Decade spent fighting fistulas leading to butt amputation (yes, really!)
Resection/Noble Plication 1995
Just call me "Barbie Butt"