Hello, well I do not have a appliance but did have the total colectomy in Feb 19 of this year and they re-connected me. I too have the same concerns as you. I have had countless surgeries and have plenty of scars and the latest surgery has me cut from below the breast bone to the pubic area, and it is a ugly looking scar and mess as the skin hangs as I have lost over a hundred lbs since I have been sick.
So I just got asked out for a date and he is a policeman.....so cuff me and lock me up cuz I need a vacation...LOL So since we have not met my mind always goes further, and I need to just be concerned with meeting him first and just have to go from there. I have it in my head that no man could ever want this hot mess under these clothes...he he I have not dated since 1997 and figured that I would never date again. I am so use to being by myself and dealing with illness that I hope I know how to act.
So I guess you being further along in your relationship, I can feel your fear but I am sure that a man who loves you for you will be accepting of your situation. So best of luck girl and I hope that I dont back out of my date....
1984 Tubligation 1992 Diagnosed with Thyroid tumor
1993 Gallbladder Removed 1997 Hysterectomy 1998 Carpol Tunnel
1999 Spinal Cord Surgery for a Anacroid Syst
2001 Lower Lumbar Fusion L4-5
2003 Sigmoid Colon Resection
2006 Right Knee Replacement 2005 Breast Reduction
2008 RE-did the Lower Lumbar Fusion/ lamanoctomy
2010 DX: colonic Inertia/ Pelvic Floor Disorder
2010 Total Colectomy ABD W/O proctectomy; w/Ileosto