I never had a red, swollen bulge after my rectum was removed. It was a deep,
open area that I packed with saline-filled gauze twice a day, so that it wouldn't get infected. It healed slowly from the inside out. I would ask the surgeon to look at your husband's backside to let you know if that's normal.
Congratulations on a successful surgery and on becoming a grandma! You're going to feel GREAT by the time you meet the little one in February.
Dx'd Crohn's in '99 at age 28. Proctocolectomy and permanent ileostomy in '06.
Disease-free and medicine-free since surgery and very thankful to be healthy again.