WOW, this is most different than anything I have encountered and believe me, I am having my problems too. My surgeon is head of colorectal surgery at the Univ of Pa Hospital in Philly and that is the reason I chose him. He seems to be very good but most of the people who have had the same operation as I had their anus sewn shut, where my surgeon left mine intact. I've had vaginal problems since I've been home. At my post op visit my surgeon said the discharge was most likely coming out of my anus, but I know my anus from my vagina and I KNOW it is coming out of my vagina. Now I am bleeding from my vagina. Seeing a gyn doctor today and my surgeon again tomorrow. I also have pressure in the anus (want to say rectum, but I have no rectum).
Since you have little confidence in your surgeon, and I don't blame you. Is there another surgeon you could consult with? I sure would. If you absolutely have to go to this surgeon I would level with him and tell him how apprehensive (and rightly so) you are about him performing this surgery.
By the way...I am the same age as you...64 and it takes us longer to recover from these major surgeries. Good luck and God bless. Chris
Ulcerative Proctitis since Sept of 1998. Hospitalized for eight days. Prednisone, Asacol, Rowasa enemas. Two year remission. Flare..switched from Asacol to Colazal. Two year remission. Started 6MP in 2002. Flared yearly from 2003 to May of 08. Hospitalized for ten days in May of 08. Flaring more often since. Off 6MP. Remicade failed. Humira failed. Total colectomy with perm. ileo .