I'm so sorry that you've had to suffer with Crohn's for so long.
If you got an ileostomy above where the disease and obstruction is, then you would not have to deal with that problem anymore. For instance, I had Crohn's in the rectum and large intestine, so when I had them removed and got a permanent ileostomy, I have not had any Crohn's related problems since, and that was 4 years ago.
There is a chance that Crohn's could show up again, but then again, it could also never show up again. One thing that's certain is that you would get some much needed relief and improve your quality of life if you got rid of the diseased intestine and got an ileostomy. I know a woman who had Crohn's and obstructions in the small intestine, had proctocolectomy and ileostomy surgery 25 years ago, and the disease never returned. So, an ileostomy can be the end of your problems.
Obstructions can be so dangerous, because they can lead to a perforation. Also, the longer you keep your diseased intestine, the higher your risk for cancer is. I think it would be better for you to have surgery, then to have to deal with either of those situations.
I'm wishing you all the best in your decision. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask. We're here to help in any way we can.
Dx'd Crohn's in '99 at age 28. Proctocolectomy and permanent ileostomy in '06.
Disease-free and medicine-free since surgery and very thankful to be healthy again.