I hope all is well. I am having a slight but uncomfortable problem with my pouch. Perhaps my stoma is a bit low, but when I apply the bag and wear it on the flange, I type of bag (I use a velcro seal type end as the clamp was worse). At a minimum, the bottom sticks into my penis and as I move - it is rather uncomfortable to painful. But it also punching sort into my testicles and that really hurts - when I sit especially. I find myself adjusting upward which means I have to empty a bit more often as it seems to fold up, and therefore not having the opportunity to fill the bottom, and waste collection gathers at the top (bad for the barrier ring at least for me). I am not bragging at all, I wish I were smaller, but God granted me well in that department if you know what I mean. Sorry for being overt, I am usually not.
Am I short waisted or do other men have this issue. I have a friend who is an episcopal minister who is like a brother to me. He saw my situation (very embassing even with other men) and he says there are very long, but not long underwear, ones that go from the waist to about mid thigh that seem to be in vogue with young men.
I really am sort of cranky about this, as it is nothing compared to the agony of people with disease, or the surgery, but this bugs me all day. Any help from you men would help. Also, do any of you shave your pubic hair, as I find it easier and cleaner in changes, as I also wear a sure seal. Pulling them off is even more painful.
I hope women have not seen this as I have not even told my wife, as she would worry constantly, and possibly be offended. I try to not whine and even fake that this doesn't bother my body image. I think she believes me, and her mother is still trying to get her to divorce me becasue she ssays people can smell me - my wife says not at all, even made me new clothes that help with where my stoma is and has added a bit of material right there on each side - she is an incredible dresmaker and makes virtually all our own clothes - really good designer type stuff with great material. I am blessed, but I can't and won't talk to her about this. I also don't want to add fuel to her mother's fire, as I said she tells her every week to divorce me. She says I smell in church, and I shouldn't go to a restaurant as it would be off putting...when she comes - she bring a bottle of febreeze and sprays the house, complaining about me. She said I am worse than an untrained baby or dog in the house, and she tells me to stay in my room when she is here. do any other men have in law problems.
bob - thanks for any response.