I had two stomas once (yeah, I'm such a lucky gal) and the other one was reversed in July 2009. The scar is barely visible now and the skin is soft. Yours will get that way over time.
Dx'd Crohn's in '99 at age 28. Proctocolectomy and permanent ileostomy in '06.
Disease-free and medicine-free since surgery and very thankful to be healthy again.