this is what i do, im getting about 6 days, i could get longer, but i don't want to push it, lol.
I take the bag partway off, while cleaning around it with a small square of a towel i cut up, with the bottom of the bag hanging into the trashbag, that way if it leaks it goes in the bag, i clean the top half, then take the bag off and cover the stoma with a towel square and clean the bottom, then, i lay down flat, and put my wafer on, i only use paste, right around the edge. after i put it on, i put the bag on, then stand up and readjust the bag the way i want it, i turn the hair dryer on and use it for a minute or so to warm up the wafer then press it down some more. then i put on a sure seal, then im done! takes about 5-8 minutes depending on how ocd i get about putting the bag on, lol. sometimes i pop it on and off like 10 times, literally.
i think a sure seal would help you, that will keep the wafer from getting wet, and help with the irration. your wafer may also be cut too large, i cut mine a tiny bit smaller than it actually needs to be, mine has quit changing since it's almost 4 years, but for the first 6 months it can change size.
and also, the powders and skin preps def lessen wear time! when i first started i was using the skin preps and everytime i got the thing wet, it came right off!
UC for 8 years, before finally kicking its butt and having a permanent ileostomy April 17 2007!
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