Excellent judgement in not particularly liking this woman..... go with that.
Of course we all have doubts.... it's a hard decision, and you need to talk to people about it, but not people who think they already know what's best for you.
I had one person who read my blog ... didn't know me very well, but I'd invited her on at one point. She started writing messages about how surgery was a mistake, that I'd regret it, that I'd make funny noises, that instead I should change my job and teach online so I wouldn't have to leave the house etc. I finally told her she had to stop or I was going to block her.... that she meant well, but she made her point, and it was my responsibility -- if the surgery turned out to be a mistake, it would not be her fault.
And just because I know you are having doubts, let me say in caps -- IT IS NOT SELFISH TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR OWN HEALTH!!!! You will be a better mother, partner, co worker, friend, etc. if you are feeling better.
This woman's thoughts should have zero influence on your decision. She is just assuming constipation for you is the same as for her, and is not listening. Who knows why she feels so strongly, but whatever it is, has nothing to do w/you.
Drag that there are so many insensitive people in the world.....
48 years old, female.
2004 dx indeterminate colitis. Back and forth between Crohn's and UC dx. Many drugs, minimal success.
2010-11 Crazy skin and eye complications, high fevers, bad flaring. Out of good drug options, tired of scary drugs.
Feb 2011 -- proctocolectomy with permanent ileolostomy; abscess, blood clot. Still healing, still glad for the surgery