Hello all who answered and thank you,
I have to admit I was lazy about drinkin enough this weekend. Instead of drinking the 3 liters, I drank barely 2. S that's what happens...
I have a one-piece (no wafer), drainable bag, convex light, and I press an Eaken ring around the hole before putting it on. It works fine, until yesterday. The last thing I ate, yesterday afternon, was chocolate icecream, so everything was much more liquid-y, and the last bag I applied lasted just fine through the night, is still on, until I change it.
I use the convex light, because it corrected the leakage problems I was having April-May, although my stoma is not refracted. I use stoma powder only when the skin right around the stoma starts to get irritated.
Yesterday around 1 pm we were at a cultural carneval, and I ate a big plate of grilled lamb with rice and peanut sauce (African tent, it was delicious). Usually meat and rice cause no problem. I think the problem was the night before, when I ate several pieces of marzipan, and that I didn't drink enough during the day.
What works: I also try to remember to drink a glass of butter milk mornings and evenings. It also keeps things from clumping, keeps things loose, but I think I'm getting too much dairy because I've gotten pimples on my chin.
Generally, I don't eat large meals. The other day there was an event at work, with a large lunch. I had no problems, but later I had passed a large piece of cooked carrot into the bag, so I know I need to chew more carefully.
I have the stoma since April 5th, so I could have the second OP beginning of October. I just started my new job on June 1, so I will wait six months from that point and have the OP beginning of November, and possibly have a working j-pouch in January.
These leaks make me feel like nothing is under control and I am a bit shaken. If it happens at home or on the weekend, but if it happens at work I feel quite a bit more shaken. I just started the job this month and I don't want anyone to know.
All the best,