Hi everyone! I am new to this site so please bear with me!! I had a total colectomy years ago for what we thought was UC. I had a bag for a few months while I waited for the J-Pouch to heal. Later on we found out I really had Crohn's Disease and that it really likes the J-Pouch. For the past few years, I have had the same constant symptoms of abdominal pain (in the same spot all the time), cramping, constant nausea, bloating, not being able to empty the pouch (I go maybe twice a day), and so on. At least once a week, I am doubled over after eating and can't function. At this point, I am afraid to eat due to the pain and nausea. I had my 6th surgery in October and it showed that my J-Pouch is really deformed. It is about 3 times the normal size, has diverticula around it, it is no longer the right shape, and has a kink in a bad spot, this is on top of the ulcers inside. I also had the oh so fun defecating proctogram and it showed that the pouch has a hard time emptying as well (I think I emptied 1/3 of what I should have). I saw my surgeon recently and she has basically said that my best bet would be trying a temporary ileostomy. I had a really bad experience with my first one but she has assured me that was a completely different situation due to how bad my health was at the time. I am married and have a two year old at home and I would love nothing more then to get back to a normal life but I am scared to do this. How many of you have had similar issues? How many are married and have a bag? Do you regret going on the bag? How did your family handle it? I have the world's most supportive husband and he wants me to do this so that I can get back to my old self. Everyone around me supports it, I just have to get myself to accept it. Thats where I am having the problem. You would think this was a life or death decision! Any advice, tips, help, ideas, pretty much anything, would be great at this point. Sorry to ramble so long in this post! If you have any questions, if i happen to miss an important point, feel free to ask. I am incredibly open. Thanks for your time!!!