Smarty, I haven't been reading all of your posts, but I did have a thought about
your travel and accommodation concerns.
You said that you expected to have to stay in an hotel for at least twenty days, and then to have to travel home afterwards. Have you thought of travelling by a cruise ship instead of an aeroplane? That way, you'd have your "hotel room" on board the ship, with your own private bathroom, and you'd be able to get from home to wherever you choose to have the surgery and then home again, without the additional expense of an aeroplane fair.
I know ships can be expensive, but it *might* work out cheaper in the long run.
Very best wishes.
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