I was searching for information on non-adhesive pouches and some how landed here. ha ha ha However, when I read your post I felt compelled to answer it. YOUR HUSBAND turns MY stomach. I can not believe any loving husband would ever react like that to such an insignificant matter of a stoma!
I met my wife, 6 years ago. We started out as good friends and not romantically, over the internet. Then one day, she said she would be in the area of my business and asked if it would be okay for her to stop by. I was more than happy to finally see her (she wouldn't send a picture of herself, over the internet).
We met on my 58th birthday and it was truly love at first sight. In the course of our relationship, the time came when intimacy was so very needed. That is when she froze up and told me she had an innormality She made it sound like she had some horrible defect or something. ha ha ha I asked just ONE question, "Were you BORN a woman?". When she answered ,YES", we both kinda laughed and broke the ice.
Needless to say, we made beautiful, tender love and I got to see her pouch for the first time. I honestly couldn't understand what the big deal was, but was very understanding to HER feelings.
This is what I told her, "It looks to me that you've decided to carry your purse EVERYWHERE." The pouch never again was discussed unless she wanted to talk about it. When I finally saw her stoma for the first time, she was so nervous that I was worried about her. It was nothing more than an "Outty Belly-Button" to me. A little redder , but pretty much the same thing, with the exception that it seemed to slide over towards her right side. ha ha ha
I tell you this in 100% complete honesty, "She is truly the most beautful, sexy and wonderful woman I have EVER known". We have been married a fairly short time and I can't keep my hands off her.
YOU are a woman, first! Whether you have tattoos, piercings, or a stoma.......MAKES NO DIFFERENCE! I don't know you or your husband but I can tell you that LOVE must either be blind, or sees much deeper than our eyes do. I wish your husband would look at the woman he fell in love with, rather inspect you for imperfections. I am willing to bet, that if YOU looked for his imperfections rather than the man you loved.....you would have a great deal to adjust to, yourself.
I conclude by simply saying that a stoma, pouch or whatever else happens to be on the person you love has NO BEARING on that love. Please believe a man who has shared some very personal information with a stranger, ONLY to let that starnger know....SHE IS FINE!
I wish you the best and pray your husband opens his eyes to the beautiful woman he married.....and soon, before someone else does!