Posted 10/9/2011 5:39 AM (GMT -7)
Bluegrass, the nurse said it will be alright, and I cannot imagine a single case in this procedure that goes 100% wihtout breaking a stitch, it's in just the worst, most difficult place next to large muscles that take part in too many kinds of basic movements. One or two is bound to break and so progress entails one small step backwards to get going forwards again, which is where you're headed.
It does sound, though, like you've had it up to here and have gotten quite frustrated with this stay in bed crap. I don't blame you and I think that getting cranky now is the most natural and healthy thing to do.
I re-discovered red pears last week and have been eating them all kinds of ways. At this point, I don't care what lands in the bag. I do have to say that my stoma has been wonderful to me and I've had no issues eating anything at all. I did start adding different kinds of food after the 2nd and 3rd months, only in the last 2 months really eating all the green salad I love. Just not things like celeray or anything with long stringy fibers.
These holidays of ours are in no way OT. I could write dozens of pages about fasting and why we fast on these days: all issues that ultimately connect to being a well, healthy person. OK I'll confess: long before my illness, I did some time in rabbinical school. Obviously it was reform, and while I encouraged fasting because it plays an integral role in a very essential process, the main thing is to "let your conscience be your guide" if you are deciding to fast or not to fast.
But fasting is a horse of a completely different color if you are in any way ill or convalescing during these days: you may not fast. You are exempt from the mitzva. Fasting means not even drinking water (which will stimulate the appetite) and you cannot interrupt the heaing proccess by not drinking water for 24 hours. The most fanatical Haredi would tell you not to fast when you're ill or convalescing. Human life and health will always take priority over the law (like if a religious person is somewhere where he can either starve or eat pork, the person should eat pork). People tend to misunderstand the mitzvot, particuarly on these days, and think that they have to sacrifice everything in a kind of morality frenzy, especially when they ignore the entire business all year long.
So, for anyone with a stoma, you are exempt from fasting, because not drinking water could be a bit detrimental, your chances of dehydration are much higher than that of those without a stoma.
What's also interesting, is that it is written in the law that there is a certain max amount of food you can eat at one time without it counting as eating food. The amount is something like 7 chocolate chips (or the same amount of cheese or peanut butter). Eating that much here and there helps, for example, healthý pregnant women who are fasting but getting dizzy.
I just remembered, I wanted to check out www.ritualwell.org and see what some women have written about illness, surgery and maybe even stomas. Lots of reform new liturgy by women for lots of life turning points that are not in the mainstream liturgy. I remember how, when my UC intensified last winter and the stricture was causing trouble, I started to examine the text of the blessing for going to the bathroom that the orthodox say:
"Blessed is G-d who has formed woman and man in wisdom and created in them many orifices and many cavities. It is obvious and known before Your throne of glory that if one of them were to be ruptured or one of them blocked, it would be impossible for a person to survive and stand before You. Blessed are You that heals all flesh and does wonders."
(Yes, I did indeed change the pronouns)
Then I started to understand a lot.
None of it is OT.
PS: I am totally not religious at all but will always be endlessly fascinated.