Get ahold of yourself. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. We have all been there.....usually before "THE" surgery. I worked within Ford Motor and s**t my pants as far from my desk as I could be. Called a co-worker on my cell and he rescued me with my vehicle. I made it and so will you. We have all been there and made it. You are next.
First you need to fix your problem with leakage. What are you doing when you change? What pouch do you wear? What powders, etc, do you use? Do you shower with or without your pouch? How big is your stoma? In or out? Tell us what you do and we will tell you what you need to try.