First, cool name!
2nd, gratz on making this decision! Not sure how long you've had your condition (UC or chron's)?
As far as deciding, there is really nothing a Dr. or nurse can tell you unless they themselves have an ostomy. Not sure how good/bad your health is right not, but if you can contact a local UOAA organization (United Ostomy Association of America) and talk face-to-face with human beings that have an ostomy, j-pouch, other, and get there information on life in general, and the daily challenges of living with each, that would help your decision, and your spirit now and later on.
As for me, my short story is if I had considered surgery earlier, when I was younger, i would have tried the j-pouch. However, since i didn't really feed bad enough (LOL! - there's a whole 'nother story there) to have surgery, i lived on Budesonide and Prednisone for another 7 years before i wised up) to have surgery, i pushed it off. Well, when if finally came time to act, even though i had two surgeons tell me i was a good candidate for the j-pouch, i decided on a pouch because 1) - it would have taken 3 surgeries and time on the calendar i didn't have, 2) it would have involved potentially more surgeries if things did not go right (like a surgery to give me a permanent stoma anyway), and 3) the prednisone had really weakened me (i knew it, Dr.'s didn't realize 'til later, well after my surgery)...i knew that was correct because my surgery was in 4-11-2011, and I just now feel "normal" again..no prednisone, no pain killers, no nausea medication..no medication at all....clean!
Congrats again on making this decision for yourself, and for your family....6 months after, you will be happy you did...
God bless you!