opening myself up to attack but I cannot keep my mouth shut here anymore. Rosemary has undoubtedly checked back, and will return if enough people protest her absence and ask her to please please come back, and make her feel loved and convince her that we will be good and continue to support her self-starvation in the face of multiple doctors telling her to eat, us telling her to use the blender etc because so far she has had no blockages, if we agree that she should continue hopping from the best experts to others until she finds the right one..
She threatened to leave before, because of an entirely different matter with another forum member that had nothing to do with her, and she pouted silently in her corner waiting until several people, including myself, literally begged her to come back.
In other words: I feel abused.
I think that Rosemary goes so far as to abuse her serious stoma issues and her own life chances as a stage to act out emotional patterns - and this is what is putting her life in more danger than the incompetent, corrupt or careless doctors, or the top experts who just don't understand.
I find it is going way over my limits of toleration when even now, she gets angry, slams the door, and tries to make everyone feel bad for being mean to her and "not understanding". It makes me feel like the caring and advice I've offered is not what she is looking for in the first place, rather, she is chiefly looking for situations and people she can emotionally manipulate to support the pattern she so insists on carrying on.
Finally, because the suggestion of psychological help is the number that makes her throw a tantrum - not that anyone called her a psycho - confirms to me her absolute denial about her own behavior and refusal to ask herself if she is perhaps doing something destructive.
I wish her well, and hope with all my heart that she catches herself before it is too late.
Go ahead, hang me from a rope here online for that.
Post Edited (B'Dereh) : 4/28/2013 8:13:10 AM (GMT-6)