Crohnie here, emergency ileo at 32 reversed 3 months later and 3 months after that I elected another temp ileo. Love my life with an ileo (but yes, if I didn't have one AND was healthy it would be great too!)...I actually had a life during that temp ileo so I didn't feel like a victim, I felt free. I have a very conservative CR Surgeon so I went with a loop ileo for about
8 years. Still had to take meds since my rectum was a mess. Meds stopped working about
the time I started considering a proctocolectomy.
I decided, for my 40th birthday, I'd get my proctocolectomy...no need to wait since meds didn't do anything anymore and I was really tired of what they did to my body. My surgery wasn't a piece of cake, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't do it again. Due to the damage/fistulas in the rectal/anal area my recover took a while...much longer than I anticipated having had so many surgeries I thought I knew how fast my body would recover. The first 2 weeks were horrible but then each day was better than the last. I was on heavy pain meds during that 2 weeks and basically off all pain meds at 3 weeks.
I did have complications at 6 months post op and had to have an abscess cleaned out (where my bottom was sewn up). Had a wound vac and packed the area for about
2 months and it healed completely. That set me back a little but again I would do it all over for the life I have today.
I am now 45 (birthday is this month
) and I've had my diagnosis for 24 years (sick for 25) and my permanent ileo for 5. I have so many things planned this year that I couldn't have done before so I am VERY thankful for my ileo and while I my have felt cheated while sick I never considered myself a victim since I wouldn't let Crohn's take everything from me. I am active, run half marathon's, ride horses, kayak, boat, travel and EAT...all things that I couldn't do before.
I'm not going to harp on the therapy thing but you should talk to your GP about
your feelings and maybe they can do something to help your situation. It's not unusual to have a bout of depression after such an invasive surgery but your situation is more complex and cannot be compared to another Crohnie.