Posted 10/10/2013 5:59 PM (GMT -6)
My situation is different as I was already married when I found out I needed surgery but I told my husband on our third date I had Crohn's. As we got more serious, I was completely honest describing my own fears about surgery, Meds, infertility. I think if you feel this relationship has potential, you should be completely upfront with him. Does he know what uc is or what a stoma or j pouch is? You could watch videos on YouTube together if that would be easier. Also, there are really cute pouch covers out there if you were concerned about more intimate moments. I know that my stoma didn't bother my husband at all, so I really hope it works out for you. Good luck!