No matter what you are going to have a post-op freakout. It's not about
the stoma or turtlenecking or sprays or whatever, it's about
the past 12 years, being exhausted from surgery, side effects of anesthesia, etc. I'm telling you now -- it won't make the freakout less freaky, but don't be afraid to let go and be upset when the feeling hits you. I cried while changing my appliance... more than once. I was overtired from never having a good night's rest in the previous year and from (hello!) having a major internal organ removed from my body! Of course it's hard.
You won't know until you have your ostomy what you really "need" and don't need, and REALLY you won't know until you've had your stoma for a few months and it settles into what it'll be like forever. I hate to say it, but don't you think spray and a barrier ring is pretty easy compared to "Asacol, Rowasa, Pred, Cortenemas, Uceris, Imuran, Remicade, Humira, turmeric, slippery elm root, probiotics, homemade kefir, yoga, meditation, mindfulness, reiki, SCD, vegetarian, nothing processed, gluten free"?
Personally I used wipes and barrier ring in addition to the wafer and the bag. I'd rather have a bomb proof setup that WORKS than be constantly trying to achieve some Platonic ideal of using as little as possible. Using a barrier ring takes an extra 10-15 seconds per change.
I think I've shared this before but here's a change I did about
three months after my first surgery: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=26rpN2ECnQE. It's not "slap and go" (although I did get faster after that) but still... it takes me longer to wash my hair, you know?
dx'ed UC pancolitis 5/12
past meds: asacol hd, VSL#3, apriso, rowasa, xifaxan, 6mp, cortifoam, pentasa, cimzia, canasa, butyrate, flagyl, cipro, prednisone, remicade, methotrexate, cholestyramine, cortenema
current meds: none!
step one: colectomy, end ileo 1/16/13
step two: j-pouch construction, loop ileo 5/1/13
step three: takedown 7/31/13