Sounds like you've had it rough, Angela!
I would suggest having your stoma nurse watch you change your appliance. Sometimes, there's something small that we miss and it results in leaks or poor wear time after a short while.
If your skin is a mess, that needs to clear up so your appliance gets a better fit. There are so many products available to help with leaks, so if you haven't already done so, contact some ostomy supply manufacturers and get them to send you samples of their products that are made for leak prevention.
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