First, glad you are considering surgery. what's worse - a bag, or methotrexate? After being on the latter, I will happily take the former! I could go into a long discussion about
methotrexate, and other biologics, but I will pass on that.
You are concerned about
meeting someone and figuring out how to tell them you have a bag? Lots of people on this forum have asked that question. Each person handles it differently - myself, if I had not already been married, would have waited 'til the third date to bring it up with a potential new woman....but, this is just me!
Is having a bag some wonderful magical thing? No. Is having a bag some monsterous thing? No. You will have to plan your life a little more carefully than the average joe six-pack, but you can still live your life. Now - don't go trying to climb Mt. Everest unless you were doing that already.....
Let us know how things progress!