I hope that I have not missed you because I wanted to tell you that when you are in the hospital you will be able to ask for the stoma nurse to show you the bag and she will explain everything to you. Once you have had your surgery,any stoma nurse worth their salt will make sure(as mine did) that you wont go home until she has helped you to feel confident enough to clean the stoma and change the bag by yourself. Never be afraid to ask for the stoma nurse to explain things again and again if nessaccery (sp) The most important thing is that you go home feeling better phyisicaly,but also that you feel confident about
everything that is involved with the care of your stoma.
One thing to remember is that everyone is different and just because the person in the next bed is getting along great with a coloplast one peice drainable bag(As I do) that doesnt mean that you will too. There are many different bags out there and it is your stoma nurses job to help you to find the one that is best for you so if you dont feel happy for whatever reason with anything then please make sure that you speak out.
I was lucky because the very first bag that I tried in hospital was the one that I have continued to use because I am happy with it.
Oh, BTW, when you wake up from surgery,you will probably find that you are wearing a clear bag. This is so the nurses can keep an eye on things and to make sure the stoma is doing ok. If its an Ileostomy that you are having they will probably give you a drainable bag. This is usuely worn straight down between the legs for ease of emptying(I just sit on the toilet to empty mine) but for the first couple of days after surgery they will probably have you wearing the bag sideways so that the nurse can empty the bag for you while you are still in bed.
Sorry to ramble on but I didnt know any of this stuff when I had my surgery and I know it would have made a difference to me.
Take care both of you and let us know how you get on