Eva Lou said...
And maybe you're right NCOT, about attitude equaling reality. But, then maybe you should try to adjust your own attitude??? You know, fake it 'til you make it? I just don't know what, if anything, would please you- you hated the ileo & couldn't wait to get it reversed, you hate the reversal outcome, you hate IBD, you're "so tired of everything under the sun"... Come on already, get over it. You know I don't mean this personally, I like you. But you've been singing the same tune for years, clearly it isn't working for you.
Yeah, I did hate the ileo for a long time - and by a long time I probably mean a good 18 months. What can I say? My stoma nurse told me that in her experience it took people about
a year on average to really come to terms with having a stoma and she also said that it took some people longer than that. I was one of the ones for whom it took longer, but then I'm not remotely surprised because I have autism (or asperger's - whatever), along with co-morbid depression - I was never going to be a happy bunny.
But for whatever it's worth, I did eventually get completely used to the stoma. I had a setup that I could see sticking with for years, I had the bag-changing routine down to a 't' (5 minutes max), and I virtually never gave the bag a thought unless I was emptying or changing it. I was never 100% happy with my bowels - I still had occasional pain issues, which I genuinely thought a reversal might resolve if the pain was being caused by a narrowing behind the stoma. The pain is actually worse now than it was before the reversal, but I didn't know beforehand that was how it was going to pan out.
Like I said, if I had the perfect outcome and the brilliant, fantastic lives that certain folks on here claim to have, I'm sure I'd be a beaming beacon of positivity too.
Incidentally, if I was capable of faking a different persona I would have done it decades ago. I literally can't fake it. I think the way I think. I feel the way I feel. I see things as I see them. If that's negative (as it clearly mostly is), so be it. I've had almost nothing but bad experiences my entire life and I do not view life, or people in general, through rose-tinted lenses.
I also genuinely hate IBD and don't see why I shouldn't?