As everyone said it will take time to heal and adjust to the changes. When I had my colon removed in April, I didn't empty the ostomy bag for over a week by myself. The nurses did. Partially due to how sick I was, and concerned if I can't empty it properly. I also got leakage from my rectum in the hospital. These things did have me concerned as well about going out. After being discharged I knew when I would have to pass mucus or blood from my rectum. I would start to get abdominal cramps. I adjusted well to having an ostomy. I decided to make it permanent. Trying different systems helps, as notsosicklygirl said. Supporting your partner helps A LOT. It brought me comfort.
Reading the posts helped me, connecting with others who went through similar situations. I am very reserved about my health as well. Have him see a doctor for the discharge if it's bothering him. I didn't get a piece of mind until I was told what was causing it. Best of luck with healing to him.
Diag UC April 2016, symptoms from Jan 2016. Changed to CMV colitis Dec 2016, blood clots kidney, lung artery Dec 2016, c diff Oct & Dec 2016
Current meds: valacyclovir
Past meds: Lialda, 6mp, cyclosporine, solumedrol, remicade, prednisone, valgancyclovir, lovenox, magnesium, potassium, lomitol, augmentin, flagyl, vancomycin
Total colectomy Apr 2017
Proctectomy Sept 2017