Your post is so similar to how I felt prior to surgery. I have a boyfriend, but he works and he's busy. He's not the "caregiver" type at all. He's not very helpful around the house, unfortunately. It's difficult. I was able to get a home health nurse a few times after surgery, but she wasn't there to help me around the house, she just took my blood pressure and basic vitals, helped me change my ostomy pouch, and then she left. Perhaps if I requested more help, I could have gotten someone to stay longer. Definitely worth reaching out to your insurance and asking in advance if the prospect of surgery becomes more real. On the other hand, with the limited help I got from my boyfriend, and the help changing my pouch, I was able to do most things on my own. I was off the post-surgical pain meds almost immediately after leaving the hospital. I get very nauseous from pain meds, stopping made the most sense. Once your off those medications, you are technically able to drive yourself. I took myself to my first postop appointment. I drove, I had to be very careful, but I was okay. It wasn't easy. I would have loved to have more support, but simply put, I did not have it. Realistically, If I had to do it today, I'd be in the same exact boat. I still have no one, and he's not more helpful than he was back then... If you need surgery, you will find a way. After step 1, I stayed in the hospital the max time. It was 5 or 6 days. I purposely did that to avoid having to take care of myself! if you're a candidate for 2 steps, that helps. One less procedure to recuperate from... I had 3 and 1, and 2 were very hard for me. 3 was a piece of cake, but it's different for everyone. With the 3rd I barely took pain meds and I was out in under 48 hours. Then the "you know what" storm began, but i was capable of handling that.
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