We have a member here who swears by a product called benzoin tincture.
Check out this quote and give it a try.
Friar's and BCT are the same. Friars is only available in Canada. BCT is Geritrex Benzoin Compound Tincture and is available in the US. Both are first aid products. When applied and dried they are sticky and waterproof. They help wafer adhesion and protect the skin. WOCN's are not familiar with either product. I really wonder why. My process when I change...Remove the wafer and shave with electric beard trimmer. When you remove the wafer the BCT comes off with the wafer leaving no residue. Any hair stands up. Clean with water and paper towel only. No adhesive removers, soap, or anything else. Dry with hair dryer. Apply BCT with q-tip to the whole wafer area. No powder or anything else. Dry again and apply wafer. The first time with BCT you may need to remove any prior residue. Use alcohol. No residue. I use select-a-size paper towel and cut the whole roll in half. Makes a nice pad to clean with. Friar's is available from Rogier in Canada. Geritrex is available from www.drugsdepot.com . Search for C2540383. $4.49 plus shipping.
I have been using it for several years with no leaks....none.
Is your ileo a loop or an end? My loop was very difficult to manage.